Wednesday, March 23, 2011

The Ugly Post

Warning: This post is full of ugly.

So, have you ever known a person that just annoys you by breathing?

I, sadly, do.

Let me back up by saying that I try very, very hard to be a good, kind person. It's kind of a track record of mine that the one person in a room/group/universe that annoys the living hell out of everyone else will gravitate towards me. Because, for the most part, I try to find something about them to which I can relate.

I try. Really, I do. And, 99% of the time, I don't have to try very hard because I generally like and can get along with people.

So much so that I'm accused of being fake. "Because you can't possibly like or care about everyone."

So, 99% of the time, I'm a nice person who gets along with everyone.

Except when I don't.

Because, there are those rare occasions (about a handful of times in my whole life) where I just don't like a person. Where something about them just irritates me to no end. Where, when I'm not around them, I can understand where they are coming from and why they are the way they are. Intellectually, I can do that. Then, I get around them and all I want is for them to go away.

I have a coworker that is on this list.

Full Disclosure: He took over TG's job, when TG left. Knowing that the new person would have unreasonable shoes to fill, I immediately tried to like and get along with him. He wasn't TG, but that wasn't his fault and I would get along with him.

Then, when other people started to comment on quirks, I tried to like him even more.

Until now. Because 18 months into this, I just have to face the fact that he drives me batty. And, it's getting worse with time.

He's like a dog with a bone and a slick car used salesman, rolled into one. Which is ugly to say, but is a fitting description.

I've gotten to the point that anytime he calls or comes to me with, "Hey, friend!" I ask him what he wants. He then play the whole, "Why do I have to want something in order to come say Hi?" card. When I say, very matter-of-factly, "Because the only time you ever talk to me is when you want something." then he'll get to the point.

No joke, he once compared women to a smorgasbord. "You can't have one main dish. You have to try out all the options."

Anyway, today, I hit my tolerance quota.

I was talking to a coworker/friend and he barged into the room........ completely interuptting our conversation. I was toying with the idea of asking him to leave, so that we could finish our discussion, but made small talk in hopes he'd just leave on his own after a few minutes. Nope. He then sat down. At that point, I was trying really, really hard to be polite.

Until he asked me a question about a procedure we have. I answered him and he kept pushing. I kept with my answer. He pushed harder. I stood my ground. Then, he decides to "explain" his point by saying the same thing in 15 different ways. I shut him down.

He went so far as to compare us to competing stations and insinuate that maybe I should start doing what they do. I told him that we weren't the other stations and we do things the way WE do them.

Finally, M had to leave and it ended the conversation. As he walked out of the room, M could only shake her head.

30 minutes later, he's walking around the building and I'm still annoyed with him.

Like, I'm physically having a hard time not scowling at him. 

I will try to not be ugly, anymore.

3 comments:

lessonsinlifeandlight said...

Oh my gosh, there are a handful of people who drive me BATTY just by looking at them! I don't know what it is, but I hate that they bug me so bad, mostly because I feel bad for disliking them so much for no real reason. LOL! Whatareyagonnado?

Domesticated-Bliss said...

Believe me, I am completely familiar with this! There are a handful of people at my office that make me cringe when they come to talk to me.

Sonya said...

Sounds like you have to be ugly or harsh with him because otherwise he doesn't get it! I think some people have to be dealt with like that or they never stop. You have been as nice as can be and he's still annoying it seems. I wouldn't feel too bad. It happens.