Warning: This post is full of ugly.
So, have you ever known a person that just annoys you by breathing?
I, sadly, do.
Let me back up by saying that I try very, very hard to be a good, kind person. It's kind of a track record of mine that the one person in a room/group/universe that annoys the living hell out of everyone else will gravitate towards me. Because, for the most part, I try to find something about them to which I can relate.
I try. Really, I do. And, 99% of the time, I don't have to try very hard because I generally like and can get along with people.
So much so that I'm accused of being fake. "Because you can't possibly like or care about everyone."
So, 99% of the time, I'm a nice person who gets along with everyone.
Except when I don't.
Because, there are those rare occasions (about a handful of times in my whole life) where I just don't like a person. Where something about them just irritates me to no end. Where, when I'm not around them, I can understand where they are coming from and why they are the way they are. Intellectually, I can do that. Then, I get around them and all I want is for them to go away.
I have a coworker that is on this list.
Full Disclosure: He took over TG's job, when TG left. Knowing that the new person would have unreasonable shoes to fill, I immediately tried to like and get along with him. He wasn't TG, but that wasn't his fault and I would get along with him.
Then, when other people started to comment on quirks, I tried to like him even more.
Until now. Because 18 months into this, I just have to face the fact that he drives me batty. And, it's getting worse with time.
He's like a dog with a bone and a slick car used salesman, rolled into one. Which is ugly to say, but is a fitting description.
I've gotten to the point that anytime he calls or comes to me with, "Hey, friend!" I ask him what he wants. He then play the whole, "Why do I have to want something in order to come say Hi?" card. When I say, very matter-of-factly, "Because the only time you ever talk to me is when you want something." then he'll get to the point.
No joke, he once compared women to a smorgasbord. "You can't have one main dish. You have to try out all the options."
Anyway, today, I hit my tolerance quota.
I was talking to a coworker/friend and he barged into the room........ completely interuptting our conversation. I was toying with the idea of asking him to leave, so that we could finish our discussion, but made small talk in hopes he'd just leave on his own after a few minutes. Nope. He then sat down. At that point, I was trying really, really hard to be polite.
Until he asked me a question about a procedure we have. I answered him and he kept pushing. I kept with my answer. He pushed harder. I stood my ground. Then, he decides to "explain" his point by saying the same thing in 15 different ways. I shut him down.
He went so far as to compare us to competing stations and insinuate that maybe I should start doing what they do. I told him that we weren't the other stations and we do things the way WE do them.
Finally, M had to leave and it ended the conversation. As he walked out of the room, M could only shake her head.
30 minutes later, he's walking around the building and I'm still annoyed with him.
Like, I'm physically having a hard time not scowling at him.
I will try to not be ugly, anymore.